A BRIDLE FOR THE TONGUE.
Let your speech be alwayes with grace, powdered with salt.
THe Apostle having given rules for faith, come in this Chapter, as well as the former, to exhort to practice, as to Christian watchfulness and perseverance, vers. 2. to pray for their Teachers, vers. 3, 4. to walk wisely to them that are without, vers. 5. and here to have their speech savoury, vers. 6.
In the words two things considerable.
1. A precept, Let your speech be alwayes with grace: that is, whatsoever speech you have with your neighbours, especially unbelievers, let it be savoury, and with grace.
[Page 2]2. The end of the precept, that you may know how to answer every man, according to the divers dispositions and inclinations of men.
Q. What is it to have the speech with grace, powdered with salt?
A. 1. That our speech be savoury, not idle, unprofitable, or obscene; but holy, harm less, relishing of a principle of grace, from within; so that as salt drawes out putrifying humors out of meat, and makes it relishable for the palate, and fit for digestion, so a principle of grace in the heart should offer to the tongue holy and savoury discourse, and should suppress rotten and unholy conference. Hence two rules are in the text: 1. It must be [...], with grace, that is, relishing of the grace of Christ in the heart, for speech without grace relishes no more then meat without salt: Psal. 50.16. To the wicked sayes God, What hast thou to do to take my covenant in thy mouth?
2. It must be powdered with salt, that is, with the salt of inherent holiness; Mat. 5. Ye are the salt of the earth. 2. The salt of the Word, which was signified by that Levit. 2.13. With all thy offerings thou shalt offer salt, that is, the salt of the Word.
2. Q. What is meant by this word [alwayes] alwayes with grace?
A. 1. Constancy of holy language, some (when they are among good persons) will speak godlily, as Jehu, Balaam, Saul; but in other company talk wantonly and foolishly: We ought to speak holily, not onely when we are on our sick beds, and in godly company, but also at other times.
2. Perpetuity, that we speak not well only by fits, but let it be the usual practice of our whole life: carnal men, though good words may now and then drop from them, yet are they presently tired therewith, more then Saints are with wicked discourse, because of the remainder of corruption in them.
3. This word [alwayes] intends other Christians as well as the Colossians, whose duty it is to look to their speech, that it be winning, and edifying, not hardening, or corrupting, and that the constant purpose of their hearts tend hereto, Psal. 39.1. I said I will take heed to my wayes, that I offend not with my tongue.
3. Q. What is meant by this phrase, that you may know how to answer every man?
Answ. 1. The Apostle meanes fitness of time, and place: Pro. 15.23. a word spoken in season how good is it? A word fitly spoken is like apples of Gold in Pictures of silver.
2. Fitness of persons, that we speake reverently to superiors, modestly to equals, and condescendingly to inferiors.
The words thus expounded, let us gather some observations, and doctrines, as first from the precept, we may learne this doctrine, viz.
Doct. The speeches of Christians should be constantly and continually gracious and savourie.
Psal. 17.3. I am purposed that my mouth shall not transgress, Psal. 19.14. Let the words of my mouth be ever acceptable.
Reas. 1. Because there is no time wherein we ought to give liberty to our tongues to speak carnally, we have an universal negation or denial, Eph. 4 29. Let no corrupt Communication proceed out of your mouth. It's the speech of wicked men to say, our tongues are our owne, Psal. 12.4. who is Lord over us?
2. Because all our words are noted by God, Psal. 139.4. There is not a word in my tongue but thou ô Lord knowest it altogether. Not successively as man, but altogether as God: the Heathens saw this, [...]. If a person were by us that bookt all our words from morn to night, from day to day, would we not be careful what we spoke? Why God is by and hears all, Mat. 12.37. Of every idle word, if persons repent not, they shal give account, Iude 15. Christ will convince ungodly sinners of all their hard speeches.
3. Because by language constantly gracious, we may be instrumentall to worke grace in others, Eph. 4.28. words that are good for the use of edifying, minister grace unto the hearers, also the lips of the righteous feed m [...]ny, Pro. 10.21. Solomon here compares those Soules, who feed others with gracious words, to good house keepers, who keepe open-house to passengers to refresh themselves. As corrupt communication corrupts good manners, 1. Cor. 15. so holy communication builds up persons in an holy conversation.
4. From the nature of contraries, which cannot be at one and the same time, in one and the same subject, Jam. 3.11. The Apostle argues, if one tree cannot bring forth contrary fruits, nor one [Page 4] Foutain contrary waters, salt and fresh, then cannot one tongue bring forth words savory, and unsavory, blessing and cursing, v. 9. one cause may bring forth contrary effects, in diversity of subjects, as the sun softens wax, and hardens clay; but contraries here arise from contrary causes, in one and the same subject.
Ob. But we read of sundry Saints that have spoken amisse: Moses spake unadvisedly with his lips; David in a passion said, all men were [...]ars, Psal. 116.11. Samuel and all who told him he should be King: Job and Jeremy curst the day of there birth.
Answ. 1. Passions in holy men somtimes usurpe the government of the members, as Rebels do the thrones of Princes, but this wicked frame the Apostle taxes, is not onely when Soules are in a passion, but when out of a passion.
2. The Apostle sets forth the monstrousness of a wicked tongue, in that it produces contraries; which nature in all other things abhors. For blessing and cursing are contraries towards one and the same subject.
5. By unsavory communication we grieve Gods Spirit, Eph. 4.29.30. Let no corrupt communication, proceed out of thy mouth, the Apostle brings two reasons; 1. From the benefit, good words tend to the use of edifying; Ministring grace to the hearers.
2. From the losse, and grieve not the Spirit, this copulative (And) shewes it is another reason against it, as if he should say, if any corrupt words proceed from you, you will not only minister sin to the hearers, but also grieve the Spirit: we are [...]oth to grieve a dear freind, let us not then grieve the Spirit, such unholy words grieve the Spirits of godly friends, who are but in part sanctified, much more do they grieve the Spirit, who is holiness it selfe.
6. It is the scope at which all Saints should ayme, to have their words constantly gracious, Iam. 3.2. If any man sin not in word, the same is a perfect man; As if he should say, perfect men should ayme at this, to have their words without sin, we cannot have our words perfect with a legal perfection, but we may with an evangelical: however let us not despise our words, as if sinfull words [Page 5] were a thing of nothing, Pro. 19.16. He that despiseth his waies shall die. David praid, Let the words of my mouth be ever acceptable, Psalm. 19.14.
Ob. But if our words must be so savory, then we must talke of nothing but religion.
Sol. It follows not, for our speech is savory, when it is according to the Word, though it be not of the Word, but of common employments.
Besides, either the matter of our talke should be holy, while we speake only of good things; or the manner of speaking holy, when we talke of earthly things, in Christian plainness, and in Gods feare, avoiding falshood. Yea sometimes, we may speake of harmeless mirth in Gods feare, Eliah broke a jest upon Ba [...]l, that he was either asleepe, or in a journey, yet must we take heed of the lightness of language, in many persons, whose words tend only to provoke to laughter. If thy tongue be inclining hereto; say thou, I will lay my hand upon my mouth, Iob 40.4.
Vse. It's a just reprehension of those, who instead of having their speeches constantly gracious, and savory, have them constantly ungracious, and unsavory; this is an argument of a graceless heart, Mat. 12.35. An evill man out of the evill treasure of his heart, bringeth forth evill things. Neither should we barely speake of good things, but speak of them out of a desire of being edified by others, and of edifying of others, which carnal men do not. Many throats are like open sepulchres, out of which come many filthy vapors, Rom. 3.13.14. The poyson of aspes is under their tongues, the poyson of them is so strong, that there is no remedy for them that are bit with them, but that the member bitter be cut off. Pliny, l. 8. c. 18. As we may know of what country a man is by his speech, as whether of France, or Spaine, so we may know of what country these men are of by their speech, they are of hell, their speech bewraieth them: in particular, many persons come under this reprehension, as.
1. Prophane speakers, who never speake of God or his attributes, unless in admiration, as, O God! O Lord! O Christ! what is more then yea, and nay, cometh of evill, Iam. 5.12. 2. Cursers; if thy curses fall not on their heads, to whom thou [Page 6] wishest them; they fall back, on thy owne head, some degree of murther, is in a curse, and herein thou desirest God to be an executioner of thy lust, so evill are they that they are not to be vented against an enemy, and wicked men are branded by this note; that their mouths are full of cursing, Psalm. 10.7.
3. Vaine jesters. I will not with Ambrose condemne all jests; for God having given us a power of laughing, hath given us objects, and occasions of laughter, but biting jests, which delight some, and offend others, and sinfull jests, which make a mocke at sin; Pro. 14.9. And Scripture jests, which mocke at the holy word of God, are prophane, and abominable. Though a Christian may now and then breake an harmeless jest, yet is it no praise for a Christian man to be a jester, for usuall jesting brings a man into a light frame of spirit, so that the soule cannot feed upon serious things.
4. Swearers, whether those that sweare by Gods name simply, or those that sweare a compound oath, joining a praier thereto, saying, so let the Lord help me, or plague me, if it be not so, Ruth 1.17. These when taken (otherwise then before a Magistrate or in case of confirmation, for the ending of strife, or the discharge of some trust in us reposed, Gen. 24. Heb. 6.) Are all prophane, against which is that flying rowle of curses, mentioned Zach. 5.3.
5. Vaine complementers, who in salutation use the phrase of God save you, God be with you, without inward reverence; not that it is unlawfull simply to use Gods name in salutation, if our hearts be affected according to our words, for we may bid God speed to a man that is about a good action, 2. Epist. John. v. 10. and Boaz used it lawfully, Ruth. 2.4. But because at such times we seldome remember Gods name, therefore it is better to change our salutation into other phrases, as, I am glad to see you, how do you, your servant; farewell; the learned languages use such salutations, the Greeks use [...], rejoyce; the Latines, Salve, art thou safe? or be thou safe.
2. Filthy speakers, Col. 3.8. The Apostle bids us put away filthy Communication out of our mouths, as if he should say; perhaps it may rise up in your heart, yet let it not come out of your mouth; if thou hast thought evill, lay thy hand upon thy mouth, [Page 7] that it may not proceed any further, Pro. 30.32. Filthy speeches that tend to the corrupting of manners, hence Ioseph would not harken to his mistresses words, Gen. 39. & Paul saith, let no corrupt Communication proceed out of your mouth, Eph 4.29. The Ephesians are bid that fornication and all uncleaneness should not be named amongst them, as becometh Saints, Eph. 5.3. Deodate on the place observes, that among the Heathens, that which was vile to be spoken, was vile to be spoken much more among Christians: the Apostle would have us to name the contrary graces, not to name the sins.
3. Idle talkers, condemned Matth. 12.36. Of every idle word that men shall speak, shall they give account. An idle word is a profuse, or needless word, used rashly, or unadvisedly, wanting a reason of just necessity, bringing neither honour to God, nor edification to speaker, or hearer, nor conducing to any profitable end. Many persons are guilty herein; as,
1. Over-talkers, who spend an hundred words, when ten would serve, if we can speak any thing by two words, it is in vain to use three.
2. Onely talkers; Pro. 14.23. In all labour there is profit; only the talke of the lips tends only to penurie.
3. Unprofitable talkers; Eccles. 10.13. The beginning of the words of their mouths is foolishness, and the end of his talke is mischevous madness.
4. Unseasonable talkers, that place one word, where another should stand, their words are like misplaced words, and letters in a Printers presse, which marre the sense, Eccles. 8.4. A wise man discerneth time and judgement; He meanes it of a seasonable admonishing of a Prince.
5. Rash talkers, who speak first, and think afterwards; Herod rashly promised to give Herodias what she would aske. Be not rash, with thy mouth, Eccles. 5.2. God hath set a double bar to the tongue, the teeth and lips, that we should not speake rashly, words once spoken cannot returne, when once spoken they are no more thine, but the hearers; A man that thinks before he speaks, seldom repents of what he speaks; silence is far better then rash speaking.
4. Proud talkers; of these there are, 1. The disdainfull speaker, [Page 8] who disdains God, and man, so Pharoah, Who is the Lord? I will not let the People goe, Exo. 5.2. Our lips are our owne, who is Lord over us? Psal. 12.4. God will distroy, the tongue that speakes proud things. Psal. 12.3. Clamorousness, scornfulness, and slightingness, are declaratives of a proud tongue.
2. Boasters are reproveable, it's a common disease incident to to the tongue, most men will proclaime every one his owne goodness, Pro. 20.6. The tongue boasts great things, boasting men are called [...], shiners above others, Rom. 1. as the sun above the stars; yet when we are wrongfully disparaged, we may speak of our owne goodness, in order to free our selves from reproach, so did Iob, [...].29.13.14. He was eies to the blind, feet to the lame, a Father to the poore, &c. also, Cap. 30. & 31. He would never have told us of this, had not the censures of his friends caused it, so Paul. 2. Cor. 11. The undervaluing of the false Apostles made him tell of the great sufferings he endured by labours, stripes, fastings, &c. All boasting is bad, but that is the wosre, when we shall boast in an empty gift, Pro. 25.14. or in a sinfull act, Psal. 52.1. Beside God strips many of their riches, and honours, for boasting in them, Esth. 6.11.12. Haman boasting of his wealth, and the Princes favors, lost all in a few daies, Nebucadnezzar glorying in his courtly ornaments, heard that voice, Thy Kingdom is departed from thee, Dan. 4.30.31.
5. Uncharitable speakers, of which there are diverse sort.
1. Censurers, who judge others, for mores, or infirmities, to which the holiest are liable, when themselves are full of beames, or reigning sins, Mat. 7.3. Or for things indifferent, as meats and daies, Rom. 14.3. Every one that doth well, hath as much right to his good name, as our selves, thou art not able to judge of other mens actions, as being ignorant of many circumstances therein, for thou knowest not with what minde he did it, nor to what end; holy men are much in judging themselves, and sparing in censuring others. Be sparing in censuring; if we censure other mens evills, let the evills be evident, and to warne others, not to cause joy in our owne estates, by looking on other mens falls, Gal. 6.4: Let every man prove his owne works, that he may have rejoycing in himself alone, not in another; that is, not in another mans fall.
[Page 9]2. Backbiters; some backbite others out of lightness and babling, having no intention to wrong, this is the less, but it's so much more, when persons out of a spirit of hatred backbite others; many tongues are like sharp razors, Psa. 52.2. yet may we in love speak of other mens faults to them who have power to reforme them, as Ioseph told his Father his brethrens faults, 1. Cor. 1.11. pretend not for your slander that the thing is true, for it was true that Doeg told Saul of Abimelechs releeving of David; but because Doegs intent was to make Saul think that David conspired against him, therefore he was a slanderer. Be carefull seldome to speak of other mens faults, Titus 3.2. And when thou hearest thy neighbour slandered, it's thy duty to maintaine, and justifie his innocency; by thy silence herein thou becomest guilty of slander. It was a good counsell of one to backbiters, when they backbite for that which is good, say, nay rather this person deserves to be commended, and you bring a woe on your selfe, for calling good evill; Eph. 5.20. If it be doubtfull, tell him, charity judges the best in doubtfull cases. 1. Cor. 13.5. If it be a manifest offence, and but a small one, tell him in many things we sin all, if it be an enemy, tell him, ill will never speaks well, if it be his friend, tell him, he deales uncharitably, to speak ill of his friend, if he say he speakes nothing, but truth, tell him he must speak the truth in love. Whispering is of the same kinde with slander, onely the whisperer backbiteth in secret, and the slanderer openly. This is the common evill of the times, exceeding destructive to humane society in general, and friendship in particular, for the whisperer separateth very friends, Pro. 16.21.
3. Liars; lying is a voluntary in equality betwixt the heart and speech, when a tongue shall affirme things to be true, which the heart knowes to be false, or to be doubtfull or uncertaine; opinions and reports, must be affirmed, as they are, and not spoken for certainties. Yet tropicall speeches, as Metonimies, Jronies, Metaphors, and Sinechdoches, and Allegories, for as much as they are invented to teach both with more pleasure, and more demonstration, are not lies; being very frequent in the holy Word, see Amos 4.5. 1. Kings. 22. Psal. 6.6.119.36. No more are parables, and similitudes, being not only used in the old Testament by holy men, 2. Sam. 12. 1. Judg. 9.7. 2. Chron. 25.15. but even by Christ [Page 10] himselfe, Matth. 13.20.21.22. &c. Nor to lie hid in general speeches, when a man is not sifted to particulars, is no lie. How prone are our tongues to lying? so that the Spirit doubted not to call every man a lier, Rom. 3.4. Yea it hung upon David, when he was in the highest pitch of regeneration, Psal. 119.29. Take from me the way of lying, yet are the lies that flow from Saints upon suddaine surprizal, seldom or never upon deliberation; so that a Christian will no more deliberately lie, to save his life, then he will steale or deny Christ delibarately, to save his life, and therefore if thou hast a purpose to deny any evill formerly acted, by thee, when in time to come charged upon thee, I may groundedly question, if not positively deny, thy regeneration, thou maiest refuse to answer to the question, or put the questioner off with other truths, or show a distast of their curiosity, but thy purpose must bee to incur rather shame and blame, nay death it selfe rather then deliberately to lie, for we are to chuse affliction; rather then iniquity, Job 39.21. And true repentant soules have their purposes set against all sin, Psal. 66.18.
But because there are diverse cases, wherein persons are apt to lash out in lying, as to gratifie a friend, the Hebrew Midwives lied to save the males alive, Exo. 1.19. Rahab lied to preserve the spies, Jos. 2.5.6.2. To beaveng'd of an enemy, thus Act. 6.11 Mat. 26.60.61.
3. For pious ends; as, 1. To advance Gods glory, Job 13.6.7: Will you talke deceitfully for God? 2. To preserve our owne or a friends life, so Michal lied to save Davids life, 1. Sam. 19.11. to the 18. Not to save a Soule, Rom. 3.8. Good intentions will not make evill actions good, for then a man might steale with an intention to give to the poore.
4. For mirth, Hos. 7.3. The Prophet blames those who made the King and Princes glad with their lying mirth; if Princes who by reason of their government are most opprest must not be refreshed with lying stories, or jests, much lesse must any other man.
5. For complement; It may be question'd whether Abigail did not lie in that her deep complement, 1. Sam. 25.41. If she did not, I am confident I have heard many that have lied insensibly in a long series of Complements.
[Page 11]6. In profession of friendship I have known some, that have stretched out far in words to in gratiate themselves with some persons, whose hot friendship hath in a short time, proved key cold for a trifle; of these see Pro. 26.23. Burning lips and a wicked heart, That is, words that are full of fire of love, and meane not what they profess, they are like a potsheard covered over with silver dross, which for the unprofitableness is cast out of doors.
7. For advancement of our owne gaine, Pro. 21.6. the getting of treasures by a lying tongue is a vanity tossed to and fro of them that seeke death. No man can tell how apt the tongue is to flie out in this case, but they that have watcht their hearts: It's naught, saith the buyer, Pro. 20.14. this helpt on Ananias and Saphiras lying, Act. 5. and Judasses, Joh. 12.6.
8. For escaping some Crosse, persons are apt to lie, to shun reproach, imprisonment, banishment confiscation of goods, and death, remember that of Psal. 56.7. Shall they escape by iniquities? no sure, for Solomon gives the answer to that question, Pro. 12.3. A man shall not be established by wickedness, and Ezekiel adds, Cap. 7.13. that no man shall strengthen himselfe in the iniquity of his life. The martyrs that died, many of them needed not have died, would they have told a lie.
9. In case of pretended modesty, and humility, so many will deny the gifts, and graces of God in them. Many assert those things in words, which they meane not, to gaine the opinion of an humble person, that of less then the least of all Saints differs from that of the Roman Antichrist, who calls himselfe the Servant of the Servants of God, but indeed intends to rule over princes.
10. In the advancement of any worth in our selves, as our parts, our pedegree, our valour, our chastity, our bounty, our right, and title in any case, Pro. 20.5. Any thing of selfe, we are ready lyingly to cry it up, also our innocency, against accusations we are wont highly to vindicate that.
To remedy that proneness that is in us to lying, speake neither more nor less of thy selfe, or any thing else, then it is; our tongues are made to be significations of our mindes, and not to lie is an act of power, for God cannot lie, not because he is impotent, [Page 12] but because he is omnipotent. If thou comest to any stature in grace, thy heart will smite thee for this sin in speciall, and thou wilt hunger and thirst after truth, and mourne for it, which babes in Christ do not so much note.
Contrary, consider the gloriousness of truth, which is most beautifull when most naked, as Adam was. Now that is truth which is what it seemes to be, and that is false which seemes that it is not; as Iehu, who spoke that he had a great sacrifice to do to Baal, when he intended to destroy the Baal worshippers. The Priscilianists in Augustines time, held that the Soul of man was of the substance of God, that a man might lie for the saving the Soul, or body of another, that a man might deny the truth he beleeved, if he kept the truth in his heart, so that when they were among Catholikes (as they cal'd them) they would speak against Priscilianists, and when they were among Priscilianists, they would speak against Catholikes. One Consentius, and diverse others, who were Catholiques, would faine themselves to be Priscilianists, that they might discover these Priscilianists, and bring them back to the Catholique faith; or if incorrigible, turne them over to the Magistrate; Augustine writing hereof to Consentius, one of the chiefe of them, praised his Zeale, but his manner of prooceding he flatly condemned, saying, how can I persecute lies, with lies? Moreover, as the Sun is light without darkness, so is God truth, without falsehood, whose truth is the measure of all truth in the creature, for the commonest truth that is, as to say that Jesus is the Lord, is not but by the Holy Ghost; Rom. 12.3. As all lies spoken though by Saints, proceed from the Devill, Joh. 8.44. So all truth spoken, though by a wicked man, proceeds from the Holy Ghost. As from one face of one man in many looking glasses, many similitudes, and representations are begot, so from that one efficient and exemplarie truth in God all truths are begot.
4. Flatterers: flattering speech is condemned, Job 32:21. Flatcery is the application of a mans tongue deceitfully to the will of another for profit sake, adulatio [...], it's a servile condition to be a flatterer; there may be a smooth sweetness of speech, whereby we speake kindely to all in reference to make them friends, or lesse enemies, 1. Cor. 9.20. Yea there may be an acknowledgment [Page 13] of the gifts and graces of others, in order to further proficiency 2. Cor. 12.11. neither is it reverent speaking to superiors flattery, nor affable, and mild speeches (whereby we speake courteously to all, and forbeare roughness to good persons, and in just causes) is no flattery, neither is a verb all profession of thankfulness for benefits received flatterie, but this is flattery when we shall deceitfully dawbe men up with false praises,Mi pater Leo, crede nè Syrenes istos, qui te Deum potiùs quàm hominem appellant. as Luther speaks of some flatterers, that made Pope Leo believe that he was rather a god then a man. Ezechiel speaking of soule-flattery, calls this dawbing, Ezek. 13.15. As a Dawber makes a ruinous house look like a new house when it is rotten within, so do flatterers, as the people did to Herod, when they cried, It's the voice of God, and not of man. It's a judgment on persons who love to be flattered, that they shall not have any to reprove them sincerely.
To prevent flatterie, let us praise men when they are absent; so did the Jews praise the Centurion, Luke 9.4. Christ praised Iohn Baptist behind his back, from his constancy, that he was not a reed shaken with wind; from his moderation in apparel, Mat. 11.7, 8. And he praises not Iohn till Iohns disciples were departed. Also forasmuch as flattering speeches may be carried so cunningly, that man cannot well discern it, consider God knowes thy intention, 1 Thes. 2.5. Neither at any time used we flattering speeches, God is witness. Also take heed of admiring great men, from whom we hope for gain, Iude 16. Having mens persons in admiration because of advantage. Now because flatterers dare not reprehend vices of great men, unless it be in trifles, as for neglecting their health, not for their drunkenness or oppression. To evidence your sincerity, practise serious reprehension where you practise commendation.
5. Tale-bearers, who use to speak evill of others with some fine pretences, but have a but that is dipt in gall and vineger. As Pedlars carrie their wares from place to place, so do these their pack of tales: these busie bodies stir up much contention in places: of these Solomon speaks, Pro. 26. [...]0. Where there is no tale-bearer, strife ceaseth.
6. Railers and revilers, who either revile when reviled, or revile [Page 14] without being reviled: Learn of Christ, who when reviled reviled not againe, 1. Pet. 2.23. when he was called devill, made no other reply but this, I am not a devill, Joh. 8.48, 49. and when Satan stood at Ioshua's right hand before the Angell of the Covenant, no doubt reviling Ioshua, Ioshua said, the Lord rebuke thee ô Satan, even the Lord that hath chosen Ierusalem rebuke thee, Zach. 3.1.2. Michael durst not bring a railing accusation against the devill, only said the Lord rebuke thee, Iude. 9. railing is fitter for the mouth of a Nabal, 1. Sam. 25.14. or of a Shimei, 2. Sam. 16.7.8. or of a Rabshekeh, 2. Chron. 32.17. then for the mouth of a Christian, who is not to give railing for railing, 1. Pet. 3.9. but contrariwise blessing. Mat. 5.44. Among other sinners railers are excluded heaven, 1. Cor. 5 11.
7. Passionate speakers; many persons in a passion speake they know not what, nor care not what, Ionah being ask'd whether he did well to be angry, replied, I do well to be angry even to death, Ion. 4.9. David in his hast said all men were liars, Psa. 116.11. Moses in his passion spake unadvisedly with his lips, Psa. 106.33. being provoked thereto; He respects those times when he bad the Lord kill him out of hand, Num. 11.15. and c. 20.12, when he cried, hear ye rebells: Nebucadnezzar in his furie commands the fornac [...] to be heat seven times hotter, Dan. 3.19. Cain in his passion snaps off the Lord, am I my brothers keeper? Gen 4.5. Saul speak [...] to Ionathan, thou son of the pe [...]verse and rebellious woman, hast thou not chosen the son of David to thine owne confusion? 1. Sam. 20.30.
To prevent these passionate speeches wherewith furious men abound, Pro. 29.22. give reason leave to interpose, let not a furious scold beare downe a reverend Judge; consider that every cup of affliction comes from the hand of a father, Ioh. 18.11. to looke at the hand of providence is an especiall meanes to bridle an ungovern'd tongue; besides passionate tongues are ready to speak beyond the bounds of truth, moreover meditate of humane weaknesses in all relations, as children, servants, to hear passionate men speak beyond their bounds, as they do often, who would not think them mad? Moreover, think how such speeches grieve the hearers ears, and wound the speakers heart: if passionately calling Racha, empty brain or fool, be so dangerous, [Page 15] Mat. 5.22. what is it to flie into many distempered speeches? If you fear your passion will break out into unsavoury speech, do as Ionathan did in the like case, who being sorely provoked by his father, departed the room, 1 Sam. 20.31. to what measure of scorn and table-talk do many persons by passionate language expose themselves? when persons call for fire from heaven, by what spirit are they moved? Luke 9 54.55. The same medicine of silence that cures anger in anothers heart and tongue, would also cure it in our own: cross replies are like wood to fire, but if necessity require us to speak to provoking language, let our answers be soft, Iudg. 8.1, 2. The men of Ephraim chid I [...]pthah sharply because he called them not to the battell against the Midianites, he replies vers. 2. Your gleanings are more then my vintage. Cannon shot loses the force when it is shot against a feather-bed: Pro. 15.1. A soft answer turneth away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.
8. From contentious words; these words are the seed of strife, Proverbs chap. 16. ver. 18. A froward man soweth strife. Contentious words are compared to the taking away the banks of a river, which being once let out, cannot easily be reduced or bound in in the proper channell, Pro. 17.14. The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention before it be medled with; fire and water know no bounds when once let out: How was Abimelech and the men of Sichem destroyed by strife, Judg. 9.20. A fire of contention came from Abimelech to destroy the men of Sichem, & from the men of Sichem to destroy Abimelech. Besides, how often are contentious words taken up only for victory sake. Contentious words to corrupt natures are as fewell to fire for to kindle it, Pro. 26.21. Some men are so contentious in words, that if you bring the most demonstrative arguments in the world, they will not obey the truth, nor give over the error; of such see Rom. 2.7, 8. It's our honor to fall down before truth: if others be fire, pray that thou mayest be water to quench them. Imitate Peter, Acts 11.1. to vers. 18. who when charged by the circumcision brethren for eating with the Gentiles, he gave a reason of his so doing in meekness, with which the circumcision brethren were so satisfied, that they held their peace, and glorified God. From the beginning of a contentious word, to what a height hath Satan boyled up strife? We [Page 16] see in Moses and Miriam, Numb. 12.1. but especially in Paul and Barnabas, so that they parted companies, Acts 15.38, 39. Indeed in things that concern the glory of God, we may contend, as Nehemiah did against the Nobles of Judah for oppressing their Brethren, Neh. 5.8, 9. and for their taking strange wives, N [...]h. 11.25. and against all evill doers, as David did, Psal. 94.16. yea we are commanded so to do, Prov. 28.4. but we must take heed lest the fire of our luste kindle herewith. The mischief of many families is the contention therein, the contentions of a wife are a continuall dropping, from which a man cannot be severed, Pro. 19.13. The mischief of Churches are contentious members, witness the Church of Corinth. 1 Cor. 1.11. The mischief of cities are the contentions therin, Psal. 55.9. Hab. 1.3. To prevent this, remember it's an honor for a man to cease from strife, Pro. 20.3. But every fool will be medling out of vain glory or conceitedness, to have the last word. See an example of this in Ieremy, cap. 28.9, 10. who ceased from strife. How full of contention are the times about Religion, so that we may say as [Melch. Adam.] a certain German, Quis me liberabit ab hacrixosae religione?
2. Vse. Exhortation, to inure your tongues to savory speeches, not for a fit, as Saul, who when in Samuels company, could utter good words, 1 Sam. 15.13. Blessed be thou of the Lord, I have fulfilled the commandement of the Lord: or Laban, though a great worldling, when he saw earings and bracelets upon his sister, he could say, come in thou blessed of the Lord, Gen. 24.31. But let our words be constantly savory, not only when we come upon the bed of sickness, or in sight of death, but let our words be so constantly. Solomon saith, A wholesome tongue is a tree of life, Pro. 15.4. the tree of life was a signe of everlasting life to Adam and his posterity, had he kept close to God; so are our words, when savory, a signe of an happie life here, and a glorious life hereafter.
Now savory language hath these properties or qualifications.
1. Our word must be holy: as worldlings talke of their Corne, Cattell, Lands; the Mariner of the tide and winds, the Plowman of his plow, the Soldier of the battel, so should wee talke of God, Deut. 6.7. When we lie downe, rise up, walke abroad, we should talke of all Gods wonderous works, Psa. 105: [...]. God hath [Page 17] not done so many wonders onely to be beheld, but also to be spoken of, Psa. 145.5.6. I will speak, saies the Prophet, of the glorious honor of thy majesty, and of thy wonderous works; and [...]peaking of other Saints, he saith, they shall abundantly utter thy memory of thy great goodness, and men shall speake of the might of thy terrible acts, verse 7. and th [...]y shall speak of the glory of thy Kingdome and talk of thy Power, vers. 11. I wish we could have but as bold a face to speak of goodness, as wicked men have to speake of prophaneness, then might we speak of Gods providence that reaches to the ravens, yea to sparrowes, then might we tell to our children Gods deliverances, Psal. 44.1. Esa. 38.19. Laying aside sinfull bashfulness let us speake of Gods testimonies before Kings, and not be ashamed, Psal. 119.46.
2. Let our words be meeke, Pro. 15.1. Grievous words stir up anger. A soft answer breaketh the bones, Pro. 25.15. That is, it overcomes a strong anger which is as hard as a bone. See two examples hereof, the one of Iephthah, who although he had bitter words given him, yet he answered meekly, Judg. 8.3. the other of Abigail, 1 Sam. 25.24.
3. Let your words be wise, the heart of the wise teacheth his mouth, that is, teacheth it to speak wisely, Pro. 16.23. deliberate before hand what to speake, Daniel answered the Captaine of the Guard with counsell and wisedom, Dan. 2.14. unless we be advised in our speeches, wee may overthrow our lives and states in a moment, Pro. 18.21. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, contrarily, in the mouth of the foolish is a rod of pride, to whip themselves, Pro. 14.3. But the lips of the wise shall preserve them, that is from the lash of others.
4. Let your speeches be true, whether we speak in jest or earnest, speech though adorned with finest eloquence, is worthless, if void of truth. The head and members must be proportionable, and one member proportionable to another, hence the Apostle drawes his argument, lie not one to another, for we are members one of another, Eph 4.25. as we Christians are members of our head, Christ, so are we one of another. It was a speech savoring more of policy then piety, that he that followes truth too neere the heeles, it may chance to strike out his teeth. The lip of truth shall be established, Pro. 12.3. We are borne for this end, to [Page 18] speak and witness truth, Joh. 18.37, yea the citizens that shall dwell in heaven, they speak the truth with their tongues, which they conceive in their hearts, Psal. 15.2. Herein not onely lying speeches are condemned, but also all equivocations, as if a felon being asked whether he did such an evill, he answers, no, meaning with an intention not to manifest it to you, these reservations overthrow the nature of testimonies, and the persons that use them have a deceiving intention, these may not be used in any case, no not if a Judge shall examine us beyond the bounds of law or of his commissions, in such cases we may answer non teneor respondere, I am not bound to answer; yet if the words used have diverse significations, and that which a man hath in his mind agree with one of them, he maketh not a lie though the man that heareth him conceives otherwise, see 1. Sam 16.7. Ier. 38. Ezek. 12.13. Math. 16. moreover if we grant mentall reservation, or the reserving of somthing secret in our mind, which is neither supposed by the hearer nor proposed by the speaker to be lawfull, then there is nothing so false that may not be freed from a lie, whatsoever we have done seen or thought, we may say without a lie, we did it not, thought it not, saw it not, that is to say in this sense, to tell it to you: should such principles prevaile, no Judge in the world could believe any mans testimony, seeing the most ignorant man could escape the reach of the Judge this way; and especially the Papists (who in some cases maintaine this doctrine) may be justly suspected in what they say; words are not signs of the mind to the speaker, who understands his own mind wel enough without words, 1. Cor. 2.11. but they are signes of the mind to the hearer, who cannot tel our mind, unless we by words reveale it.
5. Let your words be seasonable, there is a time to speake, and a time to be silent, Eccles. 3.7. Eb [...]dmelech spoke to Zedekiah for Jeremies deliverance seasonably, had he a day longer defer'd speaking, Ieremy might have been stencht up in the dungeon, Ier. 37.8. Iobs friends spoke well to him, but it was unseasonable, seasonable words are compared to apples of gold in pictures of silver, Pro. 25.11. Golden apples when they are set forth in carved silver dishes, are so much more glorious and excellent; such are good words when spoken in season. A word spoken in season how good is it? Pro. 15.23. Paul spoke a word seasonably to the Athenians [Page 19] from the altar of the unknowne God; Pauls sisters son spake seasonably to Lisias the governor for Pauls deliverance, an admonition given in season, when we are in love with a person, may prevaile, which if deferred till there be some difference, will not availe, how many good elections have been made by putting in a seasonable word to speake? also in the justification of some truth of God cont [...]dicted and opposed may be seasonable, for want whereof ma [...]y goe away with wounded consciences, for want of seasonable speaking, many oaths are sworne, and much ribaldry spoken, wherwith we partake, for want of reproofe, Eph. 5.11. How considerate was Abigail, who would not reprove Nabal till his drunkenness was over? 1. Sam. 25.36.37.
6. Let your words be pleasant, pleasant words are as an honey combe, Pro. 16.24. that is, they are pleasing to the eare, as the honey combe to the tast, every man shall kisse his lips that gives a right answer. Pro 24.26. a kisse was a signe of honour as well as love, Psal. 2.12. that is, such persons should be loved and honored. The preacher sought to finde out acceptable words, Eccl. 12.10. besides, the whorish dresse of abused eloquence, there is the matron like dresse of pleasant words, which are like the sound of a musicall instrument, and like the lovely song of one that hath a pleasant voice, Ezek. 33.32. Augustine hearing Ambrose for his eloquence, whilest it entred into him, how sweetly he speake? it entred into him, how truly he spake? N [...]phtali is a hir de let loose, be giveth goodly words, Gen. 49.21. profitable truths, mingled with pleasant words, are wont to have good success.
7. Let your words be powerfull, full of sound reason, Eccle. 12.11. the words of the wise are like goads to prick forward the dull o [...]e, so slothfull are we, lying under the heavie burthen of sin, that by powerfull words, we must be prickt forward, and as nailes place things stable, and unmoved, so do powerfull words, through divine blessing, render persons stable in the faith, the powerfulness of words ought not to be judged, from the lowdness of the voice of the speaker, (as ignorant persons often judge) but from the substantiall reason of the thing spoken, Iob saith, how forcible are right words; but what doth your arguing reprove? Iob 6.25. as if he should say, words, or arguments, that have not force in them, are of no worth: whereas many [Page 20] times in forcible words, the hearts of the hearers are all on fire; Luk. 24.32. did not our hearts burn within us whilest he talked with us by the way? It was a saying of Luther, I greatly love those arguments, Quae uno quast ictus omnia jugulant, which do as it were with one blow strike things dead. It was the excellency of Christs preaching, that he spake with power, and authority, Matth. 7.29. onely remember, that our words are made mighty through God, 2. Cor. 10.4. To the pulling downe of strong holds, howbeit the Lord usually useth rational, demonstrative and powerfull speaking, rather then empty words, through which he causeth conviction to come upon the Soul, so that the Soul hath more to say for God, and his waies, then any tentation can say against them.
8. Let your words be few. It's hard for a man that speaks much to speake to purpose. A fooles voice is known by multitude of words, therefore let thy words be few, Eccles. 5.3. also in the multitude of words, there are diverse vanities, vers. 7. A man of wisedom spareth his words. So Solomon, Pro. 17.28. even a foole, when he holdeth his peace is counted wise, and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding; as if he should say, it is a point of wisedom, to be sparing in words, some speak much in a few words, others speak nothing in many words, for a man that can speak to purpose, it's a part of a foole to be silent said one, onely herein we must take heed of conceitedness, for a man that cannot speak to purpose, it's a part of a wise man to be silent, which if duly thought on, societies would not so often be troubled with discourses which are like Cipresse trees, tall, but fruitless.
And surely as Soloman saies, in the multitude of words there wanteth not sin, Pro. 10.19. as herein there is much slander and falsehood vented, so is there much unprofitableness whilest the savorie words of others, that can speak to purpose, is much hindered.
For prevention of this evill of much speaking, take heed of conceitedness, and vaine glory, your parts will in due time show themselves, if you make them not abortive, persons will be often bragging how they answered such a man, or how they spake in such a cause, Siseras Mother and her ladies conceitedly talke [Page 21] over, and over the same thing, Judg. 5.28.29.30. Many to be wise and to be counted learned, by their immoderate talking, make every one look upon them as fooles.
9. Let your words be modest, such things as may cause blushing we are apt to put into the best words we can: Gen. 4.1. Adam knew Eve his wife: 1 Sam 24.3. Saul uncovered his feet: We should shew our modesty, by forbearing to name words which may pollute by naming, as to repeat other mens oaths or unclean speeches. Modesty also is seen in concealing our own praise; Ioshua (it's thought) pen'd the Book of Numbers, and omits his own name. When it is said of Cal [...]b, that he was of another spirit, Numb. 14.24. for Ioshua was also of another spirit then the Spies were, as well as Caleb. Iohn in the Gospel conceals his own name. Paul speaks of a man taken up into heaven, but conceals his own name, 2 Cor. 12.1, 2. Let another man praise thee, and not thine own mouth, Pro. 27.2. It's related of the Conquerors at the Olympian games, that they did not set crowns on their own heads, but waited till they were crowned by others; and so much appears 2 Tim. 2.5. And if a man strive for masteries, yet is he not crowned except he strive lawfully.
10. Let your words be edifying; It's said of the Spouse of Christ, that honey and milk are under her tongue, Cant. 4.12. that is, they must be sweet as honey, and nourishing as milk. Many instead of honey have poyson in their tongues, corrupting other mens manners with their evill communication, 1 Cor. 15.33. The tongues of good men are compared to refined silver, in that they are free from the dross of lewdness, and babling. Pro. 10.21. They are also not compared to a brook that is drie in summer, but to a Well that hath water at all seasons, Pro. 10.11. The mouth of a righteous man is a Well of life, from which flow admonitions for the unruly; 1 Thes. 5.14. Consolations for the weary; Esa. 40.1.50.4. Instructions for the ignorant, directions for the doubting: Hence Pro. 12.18. The tongue of the wise is health, in opposition to ungodly tongues, that wound, and are compared to a razor, Psal. 5.2. and to sharp arrowes, and burning coals of Juniper, Psal. 120.4. and to the piercings of a sword, in this place, the tongue of the wise is as a healing medicine, to heal the corrupt & unholy language of others: Hence such holy tongues [Page 22] are compared to the tree of life, which was a pledge unto Adam of everlasting life if he continued in his obedience. A wholsome tongue is a tree of life. Pro. 15.4. So the constant graciousness of our lips is a pledge unto us of our eternal life in heaven. The Saints, when wicked men spake against the providence, calling the proud happy, and asserting that they that tempt God were delivered, and therefore that there was no providence; they that feared the Lord spake often one to another by way of confirmation, that undoubtedly there was a providence in the world, whatsoever these men thought, Mal. 3.15, 16.
Means whereby our words may be constantly savoury.
1. GEt an holy frame of heart, Psal. 19.14. Let the words of my mouth, and meditations of my heart, be acceptable, intimating, that the words will not be acceptable, without an holy frame of heart Psal. 45.1. My heart is inditing of a g od matter, I will speak of the things J have made touching the King. So Christ, Matth. 12.34. How can ye being will speak good things? they might pronounce them, but they could not speake them, because speech is the image and pourtraiture of the mind. Also vers. 35. A good man, out of the good treasure of his heart, bringeth forth good things; for out of the abu [...]dance of the heart, the mou [...]h speaketh: as if he should say, there must be a treasure of grace in the heart, before gracious words can constantly flow out: wicked persons reproved for prophane speeches, say, we have as good an heart to God as the best, nay, thou deceivest thy selfe, if so much filth and rottenness come out, there is much more within Psal. 5.9. there is no faithfulness in their mouth, their inward part [...]s very wickedness; their throat is an open Sepulchre; as if he should say; If so much evill come out of the tongue, there is much more in the heart. Psal. 37.30.31. the mouth of the right [...]ous speaketh wis [...]dom, and his tongue talketh of judgment; why, whence is it? The law of God is in his heart so Pro. 16.23. The heart of the wise teacheth his mouth; as if he should say, whence have godly men the good language that flowes from them? why, their own renewed hearts teach and prompt their tongues.
2. Bee much in praier, that God would governe thy tongue, [Page 23] Neh. 2.4.5. First Nehemiah praid to the God of heaven, then he spoke to the King. So David praies, Psal. 19. Let the words of my mouth bee ever acceptable, Psal. 51.15. Open thou my mouth, and my lips shall shew forth thy praise, let my mouth be filled with thy praise, and thy honour all the day, Psal. 71.8. Set a watch O Lord before my mouth, and keepe the doore of my lips, Psal. 141.3.
3. Get an holy bent of heart against unholy longuage; J am purposed that my mouth shall not transgresse, Psal. 17.3. J said I will take heed to my waies, that I offend not with my tongue, Psal. 39.1. when the will is set against a thing, the members will hardly be drawn to it; hence he addes, I will keep my tongue as with a bridle, vers. 3. so that as the bridle rules the horse, so the will rules the tongue. It's related of one Pambus, that being desirous to learne a Psalm, and hearing this verse of Psal. 39.1. already cited, would heare no more, saying if I can indeed performe this, this one verse is sufficient; and when he who had taught him that verse blamed him, that in six moneths he came not to him, he answered, that he had not indeed fulfilled that verse, and living long after, being demanded of a familiar friend if he had learnt that verse, hardly, saith he have I fulfilled it in forty nine yeares, Hist. Tripart. l. 8.
4. Suppress sin when it is in the motion, so will it not come forth to word, as we breake cocatrice egs before they come forth of the shell, Pro. 30.32. if thou hast thought evill, lay thy hand upon thy mouth. What monsters should we bee if all the evill of our hearts should come forth of our tongues? Mat. 15.19. Out of the heart, that is the corruption of the heart, proceed false witness, blasphemy, hence Col. 3.8. the Apostle bids us put filthy communication out of our mouth, that is if it arise in the heart, yet let it not come out of the mouth.
5. Consider the observation that is taken of thy words; if one were by us alwayes, to book every word we speak, how exact would we be in our words? besides men, who often record thy words in memory, and somtimes in writing, as they did against Christ, Iohn 2.20 compared with Mat. 26.61. Satan he notes our words, yea the very sins we confess in prayer. When the sons of Sceva adjured [...]he Devil to come out, the Devil answers, Jesus I know, and Paul I know, but who are ye? Acts 19.13. Satan hearing [Page 24] profane speeches come from us, will be ready to tempt us to the same; Satan knowing Ahabs prophets to be given to lying, saith, I will be a lying spirit in the mouth of all his Prophets, 1 King. 22. Besides, God notes thy words; There is not a word in my tongue, but thou O Lord knowest them altogether, Psal. 139.4. Hence he will convince wicked men of all their ungodly speeches, Jude 15. When wicked men spake amiss of Gods judgments, then God hearkened and heard, Jer 8.7.
6. Bring thy words to [...]; in appointing future things say, if the Lord will, Jam. 1 [...]. Heb. 6.3. You put children to learn languages which th [...]y are to use but a while, teach them the language of Canaan, which is to be used for ever: In difficulties say, in the mount it shall be seen, Gen. 22.14. upon renewing of mercies say, it is the Lords mercies that we are not consumed, Lam. 3.22. And to speak a little concerning worldly word [...] on the Sabbath: For as all our words, so those on the Sabbath ought to be brought to the rule, & as neer as I can I shall endeavour to speak my own apprehensions, leaving others to their light. I will not say simply, that all worldly words are unlawful, when spoken on the Sabbath, for if they be, then if a man come and ask me a question, whether I will go to York, or London, or any other place, or if he speak any other worldly question, though never so short, I must reprove him, and say I am not to speak a worldly word this day; for I am to chuse any cross, rather then sin against my conscience, in committing any iniquity: For, suppose speaking a worldly word were but a little sin, yet doing it against my principle and conscience, it's an heynous sin, and going on against my principle and conscience, with the repetition of many acts, it's a question whether such a principle be consistent with saving grace. Therefore however the Prophet Esay saith, cap. 58.13. that we must not speake our own words on the Sabbath day, yet being there is an end put to that Sabbath, Col. 2.16. (for if the old Jewish Sabbath, or the seventh day from the creation, be not there put to an end by God, God having once commanded it, it ought still to stand, but it seems to me there to be put to an end) and seeing there is a change of the worship to the first day of the week, now to affix all the duties of a day that is changed or abrogated, to another day that is appointed instead of it, without [Page 25] command from God, which here is scarcely producible, I see no convincing reason; the day that we observe now for worship, the Holy Ghost calls it the Lords day, and so it is of divine authority.
For to answer to that place of Esay, the Prophet neither enjoined silence on that day, nor secondly did not universally forbid a worldly word, but.
1. Esay understands it of such words as answered to their wicked will, which formerly he had condemned in the preceding part of this Chapter; he enjoines them not onely a cessation from deeds of their owne carnall desires, but also from words thereof.
Object. But these kind of words are forbid every day, Luk. 1.75. we are to serve in holiness all the daies of our life.
Ans. So the Lord doth, but he forbids them then especially, when we have opportunities for an holy Communion.
2. Worldly words are so far forth unholy, as they put us out of an holy frame of heart on that day, for we ought to have our hearts holy before hearing, and praier, and holy after; yet if any man shall ask me a worldly question before the Ordinances, or betwixt them, or after them, I should not scruple briefly to answer him, yet would I get rid of him as soone as I could, lest by a continued discourse my heart should grow carnall.
3. In refraining from all worldly speech, look upon thy refrainment as a matter of expediency in order to a spirituall good, not as a matter of necessity, as if thy speaking some few worldly words were sin.
4. What we may do, we may talke of, saith Greenham, pag. 223. of the Sab. now there was a feast, where Christ was on the Sabbath, Luke. 14.1.2.3.4.5.6. for there was striving for places at it, now there could not be a feast, but there must be conference about it, which if universally unlawfull, Christ would not have been at the feast.
5. The lesse thou speakest of any worldly thing on the Sabbath, the more spirituall thy heart is like to; bee and therefore, he that can refrain altogether, doth best.
6. Beware of carnal conference, that it bring thee not into a carnal frame of heart; for it is a sure rule, that the frame of thy heart ought to be sutable to the duties thou art conversant about. To conclude this point, many Christians rashly receiving this principle, that now on the Lords day we must not speak any [Page] of our owne words, that is, words of common business, walke nothing according to this rule, but sin grievously against their conscience, and by this principle come to have a slight opinion of sin, because they do so commonly sin on the Lords day, by speaking their owne words, whereas it is the duty of Christians to chuse any crosse, rather then so deliberately, and continuedly to sin against the Lord.
7. Bee sparing in speech, men that speake much cannot so well ponder their words. First meditate what to speake, then speak: full barrels make but a little sound, and empty barrels sound much, Psal. 34.13. he that would live a long life, and an happie, let him refraine his tongue from evill. The Prophet for feare his tongue should lash out, kept it as with a bridle, Psal. 39, 2.
8. Remember Gods judgment against ungodly speakers, against murmurers, Num. 14.36.37. who died by a plague, against blasphemers, Levit. 24.10. to 17. the blasphemer was by Gods command stoned to death: Senacherib for his blasphemies was slaine by his owne Sons, Esay. 37. ult. and had this inscription on his combe, as Herodotus saith, whosoever beholds me, let him learne to be godly. So Olympus (as Paulus Diaconus mentions) belching out blasphemies against the Trinity, was slaine by lightning from heaven in a bath at Carthage: against slander, remember Doeg, who for slandering the Lords Preists was pluckt out of his dweling place, and destroyed for ever, 1 Sam. 22.9. compared with Psal. 52.5. against lying, remember Ananias, and [...]aphina, Act. 5.5. against vaine-glorious speeches, remember Herod, Act. 12.23. who was eaten up of wormes for not giving God the glory. Against cursing, remember Shemei, who was cut off many yeares after for it in the daies of Solomon, 1 Kings. 2.8.42:43. against false swearing, remember there is a roll of curses, the roll is written on both sides, Zach. 5.2.3. against malicious, undermining speeches, remember Daniels accusers, who themselves came to be cast into the den of Lions, Dan. 6.24. against passionate speeches, remember Hos. 7.16. the Princes shall fall by the sword for the rage of their tongue. Beza tells a story, of his own knowledge, of a man who bad the Devill take one of his children, upon which the child was immediately possessed by [Page] an evill Spirit, from which though by the praiers of [...] he was released, yet before he was perfectly recovered [...] Ho [...]. 26. in Histor Passionis. Against uncleane speeches, re [...] [...] Fotiphars wife, and Amnon, 2 Sam. 13.11. Against seditious [...] rebellious speeches, remember Corah, Dathan, and Abir [...] Num. 16.
Motives to savoury speech.
1. Else all our Religion is in vain: If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, thi [...] mans religion is in vain, Jam. 1.26. that is, every pure worshipper must refrain his tongue from such faults of the tongue, as professors are inclining to, as contention, censuring, backbiting, if he do not, his religion will be in vain; if by this rule we take a measure of most mens religion, we see what it is. When the Holy Ghost came upon the Apostles, Acts 2.1, 2. They spake with new tongues: the miracle is ceased, but the moral remains, that where ever the Spirit of God comes, there is a change in the dialect, I mean in the tongue.
2. Consider the danger of an ungodly tongue, a man may every day die by it, Prov. 18.21. Life and death are in the power of the tongue: James sets it out by sundry similitudes, Iam. 1.6, 7.1. Of a fire, in an hours space a fire is able to consume a city; so an ungodly word in a moment fires persons with pride, revenge, uncleanness; we are carefull of our fire when we come where flax and powder are, so ought we to be of our words, for if they do not make mens hearts burn with holy affections, Luke 24.32. they fire them with profaneness: careful are we of being not guilty in firing our neighbours houses, yet careless are we of being guilty of firing our neighbours hearts, with revenge and contention. What a fire do contentious words kindle, that Paul and Barnabas part companies hereby? Arrius at first was but a spark, as Hierome observes, but because not presently quencht, he destroy'd the whole world with his flame, in 5. cap. ad Gal
2. The tongue is a world of iniquity, there is no sin which the tongue bringeth not forth, either by commission, as oaths and lies, or els by perswading, as strife, provoking and drunkenness.
3. It defiles the whole body; as poyson when it is drunk goes into the whole body, & causeth it to swel, so by the sins of the tongue the whole body is stigmatized: hence we call a person a swearer [Page] [...] [...]kard, because of the ungo [...]ernedness of his tongue.
[...] [...]ts on fire the course of nature, or as in the Greek, the [...] nature, that is, it fires the whole course of our life, [...] with we are continually rolled along, from the day of our [...] to the day of our death, as with a running wheel. By na [...]re [...]e means saeculum, or generation, because age and the world [...]re taken for one and the same, as Matth. 28.20. so that the Apostle means this wicked world, so that to set on fire the wheel of nature, and to set on fire the world of iniquity, are one and the same, though we may add this, that it sets on fire the whole course of our actions.
5. It's set on fire of hell, that is, of the Devil of hell, by a Metonimy of the subject, he names hell rather then Devill, because the Apostle had spoken of fire before.
6. Because tongues, if not renewed by grace, are more un [...]ameable then any other creature, then birds, beasts, serpents, vers. 7.8. the Tongue can no man tame, it's an unruly evill, some carrie it to our owne tongues, which no man can so rule, but one time or other they breake out into an idle word, but the Apostle meanes it of other mens tongues, who though they can tame and governe all sorts of creatures, yet can they not tame other mens tongues, but they will breake out into slanders, reproaches, brawlings, murmurings, lies, &c.
7. It's full of deadly poyson, that is, the tongue naturally is alwaies ready to doe deadly mischiefe; They have sharpened their tougues like a Serpent, Adders poison is under their lips, Psal: 140.3. the Prophet compares the reproaches of the slanderers that were in Sauls court, to the poison of Aspes, because by this poison the senses by little and little faile, the head being made heavie with sleepe, as the Aspe casts out her poison at a distance, as some observe, so a reproachfulll tongue afflicts a person farre absent,Plut. in vita Antonii. and strikes him that doth not feele the stroke; so that contra morsum sycophantae non est remedium, as in the proverbe, against a slanderous tongue there is no remedie. So that as Mercury water, rats bane, Hellibore, in a little time strikes persons naturally dead, so doth a malicious and slanderous tongue strike persons civilly dead; an uncleane tongue poisons the hearers with uncleane motions; [Page 29] we should doe with poisonous speeches as men use to do with poison, when they have taken it they strive to vomit it up before it be disperst through the veines to the heart. So keep out such poisonous speeches from uniting with the Soule, by sighing at them, when thou hearest them, or if thou hast received them into thy Soule, cast them out by humble confession and acknowledgment.
3. Meanes; consider, that an holy tongue is the glory of a man, Gen. 49.6. Into their assembly, my honour, or my glory, be thou not united; and so Junius, Molerus, and Polanus, render it, as if he should say I never gave a word of command or approbation for slaying the Sichemites David, Psal. 16.9 My glory rejoiceth, i. e. my tongue. Also Psal. 30.12. to the end, my glorie may sing praise to thee, and not be silent; our tongue is called our glory, because it is the instrument of glorying, or boasting, also because a mans glory or praise is much seene in a well ordered speech; contrarily an unholy tongue is a mans dishonour, hence when we would brand a man, we say, he is a liar, a swearer, a filthy talker.
4. The account wee must give of our words at the day of Judgment, should make us carefull to governe our tongues: Of every idle word that men shall speake shall they give account at the day of judgment, Mat. 12.36. Christ warnes the Pharisees against blasphemous speeches, which they spoke against Christ; he argues from the lesse to the greater, if idle words must be reckoned for in the day of Judgment, then much more blasphemus words, every idle word makes hell-fire hotter against ungodly men: thou thinkest that because thou forgettest thy oaths, lies, or slanders, that God forgets them, Psal. 50.19.20.21. Thou givest thy mouth to evill, and thy tongue frameth deceit, thou speakest against thy brother, and slanderest thine owne mothers son; these things hast thou done, and I kept silence, but I will reprove thee, and set them in order before thee: Molerus renders the Hebrew word, as if it signified to set before in an orderly catalogue, Jmprimis this lie, Psal. 58.3. Item this oath; Item this curse, &c. if a man should see a catalogue of all his prophane and idle words, as his slanders, ribald speakings, &c. how would he startle at them? how much more at the day of Judgment will he stand agast? and to the consideration of this day, the Prophet in this Psalm provokes [Page 30] the wicked, from vers. 1. to vers. 6. also vers 22.
5. The careless neglect of the tongue will be the miscariage of the whole Soul, Jam. 3.3.4. the tongue is compared to the bit in the horses mouth, and to the helme of the ship, now if a man should neglect the helme of the ship, would not the ship run upon the rocks? if a man should ride upon some horse, and be careless of putting in bit, or bridle, might not the rider hereby break his limbs, or neck? so, if thou be careless of thy tongue, it will dash thee on such rocks, as thou shalt never come off from them, David saith, They shall make their owne tongues to fall upon themselves, Psal. 6.4.8. he compares the tongues of men to executioners, Pro. 18.21. life and death are in the power of the tongue. A man may be made an off [...]der by a word, E [...]ā. 29.21. Adoniah speaking for Abishag to have her to wife, Solomon replied, God do so to me and more also, if Adoniah hath not spoken this word, against his owne life, 1 Kings 1.23.
6. The absolution, or condemnation which shall be pronounced upon men at the last judgment shall be according to their words, Mat. 12.37. By thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned; look as a wise Judge can determine of the guilt or innocency of the prisoner at the barr when the prisoner gives an hint of the fact by his words, even so and much more can the Judge of the World judge, concerning us by our words.
Object. As Abraham the Father of bel [...]evers, and David were justified, so are Gods people, the children of Abraham justified, but they were justified by faith, Rom. 4.1. to vers 9. not by words, therefore so are wee.
Ans. Ther's a twofold justification; particular, when every believing Soule in the act of conversion is justified, through the propitiation of Christs death, apprehended and applied by faith, thus Abraham, and David, and all beleevers are justified, Rom. 3.25.
2. There's an universall justification, when all beleevers are declared just at the day of judgment; now because true faith whereby persons are accepted is a thing invisible, to this justification God brings forth their fruits, both of good work [...], Mat. [...]5.34. I was hungry, and yee gave me meat, and also their fruits [Page 30] of good words, faith is onely knowne to God, but works and words to men, hence God, to cleere his justice, will alledge these, not as satisfactions to divine justice, but as evidences of their in-dwelling faith, and of the acceptation of their persons, and to discerne their true faith from the counterfeit faith of hipocrites, there needs no great examination of men, the words of men at the day of judgment, their oaths, lies, slanders, &c. will shew what they are. In conversion we are justified by Christ meritoriously, by faith apprehensively, receiving that pardon, Christ purchaseth; and by our words and works declaratively, and so justification is taken, Iam 2.21.2.5. Contrarily a loose tongue will be a sufficient evidence for condemnation.
7. The way to an happie life is to rule our tongue, Psal. 34.12. the Prophet puts a question, What man is he that desireth life, and loves many daies, and that he may see good; keep thy tongue from evill, and thy lips from speaking guile; as we desire a long and happy life in the end, let us desire it in the meane, Pro. 21.23. Who so keepeth his mouth and his tongue, keepeth his Soule from trouble. This word [keep] is a metaphor taken from porters, who in great mens houses, & in the courts of Princes, keep out vagrants, and idle persons, or from the watchmen of a citie, who look well to the citie, who comes in, or goes out; the mouth of a man is as the gate, or doore of the Soule: let us watch narrowly what comes in, or what goes out, how great troubles have we often procured to our selves, by the unadvisedness of our words? Solomon saith, Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth, Pro. 6.2. The Spirit compares rash words to snares and nets, which hold the suprized creatures, that they cannot get out, so do words, see Hos. 5.1: thou thinkest thy words are but wind, but when thou promisest rashly, vowest rashly, discoverest thy mind rashly, thy words hold thee as fast, as the snare doth the wild beast; when we speak an insnaring word, we know not how soone another man may catch it to our ruine. When Ahab said, Benhadad is my brother, Benhadads messengers observing what would come from him, catch'd hold of this word, Brother, which became a ruine to Ahab, 1. Kings. 20.32 33. Such unadvised words are compared to a deepe well, wherein foolish men are swallowed up, Eccles. [Page 32] 10.12. The lips of a foole swallow up himselfe.
The second part of the text follows, which is the reason, viz. That we may know, how to answer every man.
Obs. Christians, ought to have a fitness of speech and answer to the persons, with whom they converse, Luke. 11.38.13.1.2.14.7.8.
Reas. Because God hath made every thing beautifull in its season Eccles. 3.11. to a superior give intreaties, 1. Tim. 5.1. to a parent speake reverently, Mat. 1.6. to a master subjectively, our words should be as the raine, which when it comes in season, refreshes every creature; If equall, speake so that we may preserve equalitie, to inferiors use persuasions in stead of commands; ingenuous spirits are rather drawn by loving speeches, then driven by compulsion.
Q. How shall I know fitly to answer every man?
A. 1. Consider the benefit that is like to come, by thy speaking, and the hurt that is like to come by thy silence.
Hester knew she was called to speak to the King, because had she been silent, the Church had been undone, the woman of Abel, 2. Sam. 20.16. to 23. knew shee was called to speake in her owne vindication, and the vindication of other innocents, because else the Citie would have been destroied, for the treason of Sheba the Son of Bichri.
2. Beg wisdome of God, when to speak, and when to forbeare, Pro. 3.6. In all thy waies acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy steps Psa. 25 12. Jam. 1.5. not onely the preparations of the heart, but also the answer of the tongue, is from the Lord, Pro. 16.1. therefore desire him to give you counsell.
3. Consider whether speech or silence be better: in many cases silence may be better then speech, as concerning our owne parts, Pro 12.23. A prudent man concealeth knowledg, concerning works of mercie done by us, Mat. 6.3.4. do not sound a trumpet, so concerning private duties of pietie, Mat 6.6.18. as private praier God will not deny, but acknowledg every good thing that is done in secret, for your father seeth in secret; So concerning matters of our calling, apprentices must keep silent their masters secrets; Lawyers their clients cases, Divines their peoples consciences; Physitians their patient diseases, married persons, [Page 33] conjugall passages, friends their friends secrets, for he that is of a faith [...]ull spirit concealeth secrets, Pro. 11.13. When revealing any of these shall be against charity, concealement and silence ought to take place.
4. Get knowledge, as in the text, that you may know how to answer every man, Eccles. 8.5. A wise man discerneth both time and judgment, i.e. when to answer.
5. Get meekeness, and patience, that you suffer the speaker to speake what he hath to speake before you answer. He that answers a matter before he heare it, it is follie and shame unto him, Pro. 18.13. many to be counted quick of understainding, breake off another mans speech before they heare it, and have their answer (whereby their follie appeares) nothing to the matter intended.
6. Studie what to answer; rash answers procure long repentance; The heart of the righteous studieth to answer, Tro. 15.28. The tongue in the body is like the helme in the ship, which must not be moved rashly. In weighty matters desire time for deliberation before you answer, Rehoboam though foolish in the result of his councell, yet did wisely in this to take time to answer, saying, Come againe unto me after three daies, 2. Chron. 10.5.
7. Consider the person whom you are to answer, whether he be wise or foolish. Pro. 26.4. Answer not a foole according to his folly, that is a scornefull foole, such as Rabshakeh was, 2 Kings 18.36. to answer these men according to their folly, were to cast holy things to dogs, Mat. 7.5. also Solomon understands shallow brain'd fooles, with whom in speaking of things above their capacitie wee shall enter our selves into the l [...]st of contention, and become as foolish as they; now on the other side we are bid to answer a foole according to his folly, vers. 5. Solomon speaks this of a self-conceited foole, who think [...] himselfe wise, we are bid to answer such with words of wisedome, that they may come to see their folly, ignorance and mistakes, and so come to wisedome, some conceited fooles thinke their arguments, and words (for I dare not call them reasons) cannot be answered, when indeed they are not worth the answering; these are to be answered, so that they may see their ignorance, and repent [Page 26] of their errour; contrarily when we are to answer wise men, study what to answer and come to the point in few words.
8. Consider the question in hand, and speake to it, as singled from all other questions, let your answer looke right upon it, Pro. 24.26. Every man shall kisse his mouth, that giveth a right answer. Christs pertinent answers to the Doctors questions in the Temple made the hearers astonished, Luk. 2.46.47. Many when asked a question, answer to another question, or else answer by a [...]king another question.
9. Let your answer be with discretion, Mark. 12.34. Christ praises the Scribe for answering discreetly; Pharoah praises Joseph for his discretion, Gen. 41.39. which he shewed in answering his questions. Th [...] did Solomon answer all the queene of Shebat questions, 1. [...]gs 16.2.3.
10. Let your answer be without [...]ne glory, and ostentation, let not the wise man glory in his wisedome, Jer. 9.23. how humbly doth Daniel speak, when he answers King Nebucadnezzars hard question, Dan. 2.30. As for me this secret is not revealed to me, for any wisedome, that I have more then any living; many men of parts are ready to be lifted up in the punctualness of their answers; Solomon saith, The answer of the tongue is from the Lord, Pro. 16.1. therefore the Lord should have the glory of it; in some cases, as in case of witnessing the truth, God hath made speciall promises to teach us how to answer unrepliably, Mat. 10.19.20. as Moses face shone, though he did not know it, so do humble men shine by their humility, as well as by pertinent answers.